The Pros and Cons of Kissing on a First Date

the first date kiss

The first date has enough stress associated with it, it doesn’t need the extra stress of whether or not a kiss will be expected at the end of said date. Dating experts are torn on the topic; some say it’s okay to kiss on the first date while others feel like you should hold off.

These experts believe those who go on a first date, especially if it is a blind date, should refrain from a lip lock. They feel that it is an intimate act for someone who you just met. While other experts believe that its quite informative and it could clue you in to the way the other person behaves in the bedroom.

We’ve taken these things into consideration and have come up with the pros and cons, then you can decide if you will be the type of person to kiss on the first date, or let it wait for another date.

The Pros:

Sometimes kissing on the first date can allow you to decide how interested a man is in you and if he respects you. If he finds you attractive, he will probably intensify the kiss if you reciprocate the kiss. If he respects you, he may kiss you, but he won’t do much more than that because he acknowledges that it is a first date and anything more isn’t appropriate.

Kissing on the first date also creates an air of anticipation that leaves you both eager for the second date. If the guy wants to kiss you, it’s definitely a good sign that he’s interested in you. You can use this to your advantage and leave them breathless and anticipating your second date.

The Cons:

You may go into the kiss with the belief that it is just a kiss, but there is always a potential for it to lead to something more. If you want something more along the lines of a committed relationship, you may want to hold off on kissing on the first date. Traditionally it’s acceptable to have a brief peck on the cheek; however when you include alcohol into the equation, it may be harder to keep your wits about you.

Kissing on the first date is a way to learn if he is a good kisser or not, but you don’t know if he may have any STIs. Nowadays you have to consider the possibilities, as any part of the body could become infected by an STI; including your mouth. If he gives you the vibe that he may have gotten around (or still does) you may want to be certain that you’re the only one he’s puckering up to.

If you feel like you have to kiss, let him to kiss your cheek or hand. If he’s an upstanding guy, he wouldn’t pressure you and may even admire your caution. Remember that he is observing what you do just as much as you are him.

Kissing on the first date is entirely up to the individual. If you feel confident enough and want to do it, go for it!