The pain of heartbreak is something we all will endure at one point or another, but it doesn’t mean you have to suffer terribly.
Here’s how to make it through it without suffering too much.
1. Never let your emotions get the best of you.
When you’re dating someone, you don’t want to get too emotionally attached. What we mean by this is you might want to refrain from wearing your emotions on your sleeve and approach dating a bit more practically. By wearing your heart on your sleeve early in the relationship and the relationship doesn’t pan out, you’re going to be crushed. If you let go of expectations and simply go with the flow and enjoy the moment, you’re less likely to get hurt.
2. Accept the situation for what it is.
Whether you are in a relationship, or you are just starting to see someone, you should be able to approach any situation with an open mind. This means that you have to accept the status of the relationship. If you’re with someone you were meant to be with, it will transition into a long term relationship. However, if this doesn’t happen, accept it and move on to the next.
3. Know what you are looking for in a relationship and partner.
It’s always important that when you are interested in dating again, you have a clear idea of the type of person you want to date and where you want to relationship to go. For example, if you are looking for a serious relationship, you shouldn’t settle for someone who wants a casual experience. Or if you want someone who has similar core values, you aren’t settling for someone whose values are slightly different than your own.
4. Have similar interests and values.
Speaking of similar values, you want to make sure that the person that you see share similar interests too. While you can’t build an entire relationship on your love of the Godfather trilogy, least now you have a starting point where you can build off of from there. Of course, you also want to take note if your partner approaches to love and relationships in a similar fashion as well. For example, if there is a conflict, you don’t want to be with someone who shuts themselves off until they cool down if you are someone who needs to talk about the issue right away.
5. Recognize if the relationship was a mistake.
One of the easiest ways to avoid heartache is by recognizing early on that the relationship isn’t going to work out. When you can notice the signs that the relationship isn’t going the direction you want, you shouldn’t feel guilty for ending things quickly. In fact, it’ll save you both plenty of headaches, heartaches, and hurt feelings.
6. Be aware of the red flags.
If you don’t want to get let down and suffer heartbreak, you should always be looking out for red flags. These could be anything from controlling behavior, lying, or keeping secrets or anything that you feel would ruin a relationship.
7. Be yourself.
You shouldn’t ever feel like you are going to have to change who you are simply to be in a relationship. If your partner pressures you to change certain aspects of yourself so that they are more comfortable, then they are not someone you should be with. A true partner will love you exactly how you are, no questions asked.